I bet you hear the word “no” regularly. It’s true that when your colleague or client starts saying no, it can be brutal. But saying yes to everything won’t solve the problem. On the other hand. This will only increase your stress, not to mention make others value your time less. If you say yes to someone too many times, they will start expecting it…every time…
I’ve encountered this problem several times. I wanted to get involved everywhere and show my willingness to learn. But eventually I learned that I need to get my feet back on the ground.
Once I started to really assert myself, to learn to assert myself, things changed. And luckily! I’ve learned to align a little more with what I love by constantly trying to say no while maintaining my work relationships as they should be. I know this is easier said than done, but these few tips may help. Instead, read the following.
be honest. Explain that you have other commitments and simply cannot meet the needs of the person you are talking to.
be quick. Tell your interviewer immediately, but politely (very important) that you cannot do what they are asking. That way you won’t delay anyone else’s plans. This is how you make progress.
Ask to reschedule your request. Sometimes we really want to do something, but unfortunately we don’t have the time. So make a clear timeline for your actions to always show your good faith and professionalism.
Suggest an alternative. Suggest someone else who could help in your place.
Would you like to define criteria for what to say yes and what to say no? Very good idea ! This will make decision making easier. To achieve this, ask yourself the right questions before you decide:
- Do I really want to do this?
- What do I get from that?
- What has this person done for me lately?
- What would I do with my time if I didn’t?
Saying “no” can be awkward and definitely takes practice, but once you get over your fear of saying it, you’ll find that it’s easy! Also easy! Just try to be pleasant and polite at all times. It’s the most important thing.
But why say no?
One of the biggest challenges with saying no is getting FOMO (fear of missing out). But really think about the benefits when you say it:
- You have more control over your life to become a successful entrepreneur;
- You have more confidence when you need to surpass yourself;
- You have time to do whatever you have put off;
- You become more confident when you have to say “no” more often (I admit, the first time is the hardest);
- You have great opportunities at your fingertips that you didn’t even know existed. Now that you are more available, take advantage of it!
Now take your courage in both hands and know how to say NO to what isn’t working for you or what doesn’t meet your needs. Come on, don’t be afraid to say no. You also deserve time to yourself.
source : Entrepreneur